Well, i guess the situation is getting worse since my last post. This could be very well the straw that broke the camel's back !!
The most recent incident with the wife goes as follows, last Friday my wife had a wedding to attend. For the people who are not familiar with weddings in Saudi. Weddings are a female-only event, which starts at 12-1 AM and ends sometime around 5 AM. Naturally, women go to Salons and get their hair done sometime at the evening of the wedding night, and then get dressed and go to the wedding.
Our agreed upon family rule is that we never leave our 6 months old son alone with maid. If someone had an event to attend, or is busy with a commitment, the other partner will stay home with the baby, along with the maid of course. HOWEVER, since my wife will be returning from the wedding at 5 in the morning, she will going home with her mom to her parents house, and she like to have her "baby" at home where she is spending the night because she "just misses him soooooo much" !!!!!!!!!
So, we agreed as an exception that she can take him to her parents house, leave him their with the made throughout the night (Since everybody is at the wedding). That was ok !
The second day , Saturday afternoon, she calls me and say that she wants to go to the beach ( One of the many sea resorts on the north of Jeddah) with her family. Her mom, aunts, and sisters are going, and she wants to get a tan. She also mentioned that she is leaving our son at home, alone with the maid , AGAIN !!!
Of course, i insisted that she stops by our home, and drop my son, since i am spending the whole day at home, and i can baby sit him.
That's where the fight started. She claims that i distrust her parents because i don't allow her to leave my son alone with them. She also says that i don't mind leaving my son alone with my parents (Which is true) but i do when he is alone with hers ( Not True).
Anyways, our fight got so bad last night, that we already started talking about custody arrangements for our son after the divorce !!!
Personally i would love to get a divorce and be single again :)
But i have to think of my son first, he is the priority here, not me. Our arrangement states that our son will be staying with me, at my parents house, and she will have a full access to him anytime she wants. Which suits me pretty well.
However, i don't want to deny my son the pleasure of living with his mom. I would like him to wake up to her voice, set on the breakfast table with her , and listen to the "Be careful" and " don't get in any fight" talk before he takes off to school. I believe that it is his right to be raised in a loving and caring family. And i don't believe that either me oe his mom has put enough effort into providing that for him.
Admittedly, we are not happy together. We have our good days, and bad days, like any couple. But the fact that a small and trivial matter like the incident last week get blown up to this , means that both of us have reached our limit, and we are looking for excuses to get out. Even though we wouldn't confess to that publicly, or even consciously to ourselves !!!
I don't know how next week will turnout like, we will just have to wait and see.
I will keep you posted :)
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